A little blame the victim mentality…

Lemme get this straight, a drunk cop flashes his badge to get into a bar without paying the cover charge, pinches at least one woman’s ass, then sticks his hand up another’s skirt and gropes her genitals. When the woman complains, he is escorted out by the bouncers, whom the cop threatens, telling them he will have them fired.

The woman presses charges. The jury finds the cop guilty.

The judge hands down a minimal sentence and then tells the victim, “If you wouldn’t have been there that night, none of this would have happened to you.”


She (yes, the judge was a woman) also said, “When you blame others, you give up your power to change.”

The judge has since offered an apology (of sorts), saying, “It was never my intention to make a situation worse for any victim. I have learned an important lesson and will apply what I have learned to future cases, to ensure that the rights and views of all victims are heard and respected.”

Based on the reports, it’s fairly safe to assume the woman wasn’t trying to dirty dance her way into the cop’s pants. It’s also fairly clear that the man was using his badge in an attempt to get special treatment. Whatever the case, a jury heard the evidence for and against and found the man guilty of a significant sexual assault.

Which makes me think it was a little more than a casual grope, y’know.

I have no problem with the fairly light sentence – I really don’t think this guy belongs on the sex offender list (at least, not based on these reports). He’s already lost his job, and most law enforcement agencies won’t touch him with a 10-foot pole at this point. He’ll be serving probation and doing community service. Do I think it should be more? I don’t know. I don’t know enough details about the case.

What I do know is that, under any circumstances, the judge’s comments are shocking and disgusting. Her later apology is equally ridiculous. Really, it was never her “intention to make a situation worse”? And she has “learned an important lesson”? Damn, I sure as hell hope so. Because I’d hate for some young girl who has just been molested to be sitting in her courtroom and have to hear a lecture on being in the wrong place at the wrong time.

But here’s what really gets me…

See, these attitudes imply that men lack self control. It implies that males are merely animals who will mindlessly chase after sex because the female is waving some enticement at him. It says he can’t resist the temptation and that any invitation to a man is tacit approval for him attempting to satisfy his animal lust.

Bull. Shit.

Pardon me, I’m going to go find a brick wall and bang my head into it now.